Ask Me Anything – The Answers (Part One)

I am seated in a crowded airport waiting to get on my flight to JFK. I am tired and I am miserable. My flight has already been delayed more hours than I can count because of snow on the ground at home in New York. We were originally scheduled to leave at 6:15 pm, well it’s now 10:45 pm and we still have no idea when we will actually be departing. Not the most ideal situation for creativity and or writing but since I am committed to fulfilling my promise to participate in Reader Request Fridays I just pulled my laptop out of my carry-on and we shall now begin.

Thanks to all of you who took the time to ask me fun, interesting, provocative questions, some of the answers came to me quickly and easily, while others gave me food for thought. I was asked way more questions than I had anticipated, some of the questions even came from my Facebook friends and one Twitter follower, while others came from real life friends.

In the interest of brevity, I’ll be doing my Reader Request Friday responses in 2 parts, that is in 2 separate posts, I don’t want to make it too long and I especially don’t want to bore anyone so please note if you don’t see your question posted here this week, rest assured I’ll be responding to it in my next installment of Reader Request Fridays.

Without further adieu let’s get to the questions and, of course, my answers:

Reader Request Fridays was created by my fellow blogger the controversial, who provided me with the first set of questions to respond to:

Q1. I would like to hear the story of you growing up in the Islands.

I was born and raised in Jamaica. We were a typical middle-class family. We didn’t want for anything because my father worked hard and was able to more than adequately provide for his family. I am the eldest of my parents’ three children and I am the only girl.

My father, a former military man, was all about discipline and raised us in a very strict, rigid household with a thousand rules. My mother, on the other hand, was quite liberal in her parenting style (thankfully) so this kind of created a tolerable balance.

I think I might have been the toughest of the 3 children to raise since I was quite the opposite of everyone in my family. I was an extrovert growing up in a household of introverts. I always wanted to go out partying, socialize with the other kids next door, listen to all kinds of loud music with somewhat raunchy lyrics, namely Rock and Jamaican Dancehall, talk loudly and generally just hang out. My father didn’t think any of that behavior was very ladylike at all, so I just kind of kept in line so I wouldn’t get in trouble with him. Growing up I was very scared of my father. Truth be told I was still kind of scared of him even in my adult years, he was a no-nonsense kind of guy, who expected the best from his children, and I never wanted to disappoint him.

Q2. When and why did you move to New York and what was the transition like?

In the Summer of 1998, I was visiting New York and met a very, cool, confident guy that swept me off of my feet. We spent the entire summer hanging out and by the time I was ready to go back home to Law School I was in love. We did the long distance thing for a few years and every opportunity I got to come back to New York, during school breaks, he would send me an airline ticket. When I graduated Law School he encouraged me to move to New York to be with him so I did, much to my father’s displeasure. We later got married, had a child, then divorced.

Despite the divorce and circumstances that caused the divorce, I have no regrets about giving up my solid life in Jamaica and moving to NYC. I love living in New York and I enjoy being a mother, which I don’t think I would have been if not for my Ex, so zero regrets here.

The transition from Jamaica to New York was fairly easy, the only thing I had to get used to was the Winters; but I am so in love with Winter fashion; coats, knee-high boots, gloves, scarves etc., that not even the Winters bothered me much.

Q3. What do you miss about the Islands and how often do you go back there?

I miss my Mom, who still lives there. My Dad passed away a few years ago so in some strange way I miss him too.

I miss the food, the freshness of the food. The way everything tastes light and organic, as opposed to being heavily chemicalized or fertilized.

I miss the greenery, the lushness of the backdrop of the Blue Mountains as I drive through certain parts of the island.

I miss listening to our dialect every day. I also miss the very special way in which we (Jamaicans) create and invent new words all the time to perfectly fit any given situation and circumstance. Gosh, I love my people. πŸ˜‚

I go home at least once a year. A trip I always look forward to.

Q4. Also, have you taught your children about the culture and traditions of the Islands?

Child – not children – just one. Yes, I most certainly have. My son has been going to Jamaica every year, sometimes twice a year, since he was only six months old. He will be 15, in a matter of weeks, and you can’t tell him he isn’t Jamaican himself. He understands the dialect and speaks it better than most American children born to Jamaican parents. He loves the food, the music and the dances, which he surprisingly does very well. My son has claimed Jamaica as his own and doesn’t like it when I refer to him as a “fareign pickney”. πŸ˜‚

Map of Jamaica with the flag’s colors.

The following questions came for the emphatic Nova at

Q5. Do you spread spaghetti sauce all on top of your noodle or mix it all together?

Mix it all together.

Q6. What was your favorite snack as a kid? When did you last have it?

Chippies Banana Chips, which, of course, is from Jamaica. However, I find it in New York from time to time. I recently had some.


Q7. Do you have a monthly subscription box? If so, which?


Q8. What’s your favorite perfume?

Good ole classic Chanel No. 5.

Q9. Top pet peeves.

i) People who spit in public.

ii) People who act like they know everything.

iii) Unsolicited advice.

iv) People who talk during a movie.

v) Long recorded messages that ask you to press a thousand different numbers before you can actually talk to a real live person.

Q10. Do you own a dishwasher?

Yes. Believe it or not, I hardly use it though, I like doing my dishes the old fashion way.

Q11. What would the warning label to your life say?

Combustible! She goes from 0 to 100 in under 60 seconds.

Q12. If you could meet anyone who would it be?

Oprah Winfrey.

Q13. What food can you absolutely not eat?

Frogs. I hear it’s a delicacy in some countries but I’ll pass.

Q14. If you weren’t in the profession you are in right now what would you choose to do for work?

A Writer, of course. It’s my dream to get paid for my writing.

Q15. If you could use one superpower for a day, which would it be?

Ha! I’d want to be invisible. Imagine the things you could find out if you were invisible. πŸ‘€

Q16. What allergies do you have?

Thankfully, none.

Q17. Do you read magazines?

I use to but in this day and age of the World Wide Web, I don’t really read print magazines anymore. I use to have subscriptions to O (The Oprah Magazine), Essence, Cosmopolitan, and Parenting Magazine.

Q18. What has been your hardest challenge this month?

A particular case I have. Well, it’s not even the case, it’s really the client that has been challenging.

Q19. Do you have a Thanksgiving tradition? If so, what?

Not really. We usually eat Thanksgiving Dinner with another family at their house. I rarely ever host Thanksgiving, I did it once and I don’t think I want to do it again.

Q20. What’s something you do without realizing it?

Raise my voice. I do it out of excitement, annoyance or anger and don’t even realize it until I’m asked, “Why are you yelling?”

Q21. What would be in your self-care kit? Lip-gloss, mint-flavored gum, movie tickets, a pair of dumbbells, a great book and my debit card.

While the fun and comedic Britchy over at wanted to know the following:

Q22. What is your favorite color?

Red!!! I adore everything red. Red cars, red dresses, red sofas, red walls, red lipstick, red cell phone covers; I always go with red. All kinds of red; fire-engine red, apple red, brick red, wine red…Red! Red! Red!

Q23. If you could go to any play or musical what would it be?

Hands down Springsteen on Broadway; mezzanine tickets are going for at least $1,200 a piece. Of course, I can’t afford to go at those prices but oh how I wish I could.

I also have an interest in seeing Hamilton, another ridiculously priced Broadway play.

Q24. Who would you invite to a dinner party? Ahh, let’s see…

  1. Oprah Winfrey
  2. Chris Hemsworth
  3. Barack Obama
  4. Viola Davis
  5. Denzel Washington
  6. Usain Bolt
  7. Bruno Mars
  8. Stephen King
  9. Diego Maradona
  10. Sebastian Maniscalco
  11. Martin Scorsese
  12. Shabba Ranks
  13. Serena Williams, and
  14. Jerry Seinfeld.

Q25. Where would you like to vacation? I’d like to go to Egypt to see the pyramids.

Q26. Can you recommend any good books?

Of course! Here are some favorites:

  1. To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee
  2. Defending Jacob by William Landay
  3. A Time to Kill by John Grisham
  4. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
  5. Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe
  6. The Stand by Stephen King
  7. 11/22/63 by Stephen King
  8. The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseinei
  9. The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
  10. Black Boy by Richard Wright
  11. Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
  12. A House for Mr. Biswas by V.S. Naipaul

Q25. What pets do you have or would you like? I wasn’t blessed with a love for animals.

Q26. What types of music do you like?

I listen to just about anything but I do have an affinity for Rock, Reggae and Jamaican Dancehall. I even enjoy some of the rap music my son likes to listen to.

Q27. Did you enjoy school? If yes what subjects?

For the most part, I did. Favorite subject, hands down anything to do with English Langauge Arts; both English and English Literature were favorites of mine.

Q28. Were you ever a girl guide? Nope.

Q29. Do you like fun fairs? Yes, I like fairs. b) Favorite fair food? Cotton Candy.

Q30. Do you prefer wine or cocktails or soft drinks? I like red wine but I prefer a tangy tasting cocktail and if I opt for soda, it’s usually the diet version, like Coke Zero. My favorite drink is water though.

Q31. What would your favorite dinner be if you could pick anything?

Well, since I’m a carnivore I’d have to go with a porterhouse. Next up would be a nice roast chicken complete with stuffing.

Q32. Kiss, Kill, Marry; who gets what?

Kiss – Bruno Mars/ Kill – (I can’t think of anyone I want to see dead)/ Marry – Chris Hemsworth.

Q33. Is there anywhere in the US you’d like to live more than where you are now?

Nope! I love living in New York. I might opt to move around in different parts of New York but I really like it here. My favorite thing about New York is its diversity and inclusivity, all are welcome, everyone has a home here.

Q34. What TV shows do you like?

I like laugh out loud comedies. I’m a big fan of The Big Bang Theory, Black-ish, Modern Family and I always watch The Jeffersons re-runs.

I can also sit and watch endless hours of Law and Order.

Q35. What are your favorite clothes shops?

  1. Lord and Taylor
  2. Desigual
  3. Top Shop
  4. Zara
  5. Express

Q36. Who is your favorite historical man and woman?

Bob Marley and Rosa Parks.

Q37. Do you prefer to fly or drive?

Flying gets you there quicker but considering that I am still waiting around in this damn airport after 7 hours of checking-in for my flight, I am not feeling flying right now. 😟

Q38. Baking is important to me. If I was to bake for you, what cake would you like me to make most?

I’d probably go with anything chocolate, with chocolate fudge and chocolate chips.

20181116_0534371043823758107854812.jpg Me, right now, in the airport trying to get this Blog done.

I’ll just keep going until they call my flight – Up next we have questions from the illustrious Claudette over at

Q39. Favorite Bon Jovi song

The irony here is that my favorite Bon Jovi song wasn’t even done by Bon Jovi, the band, but by Jon Bon Jovi, as a soloist, when he recorded Blaze of Glory for the movie, Young Guns II.

My favorites from the band would be Bad Medicine and I’ll Be There for You.

Q41. Do you have a phobia or aversion to something?

I freak out around creepy, crawly, slithery things. The give me the heebie-jeebies.

Like you, Claudette, I went down the rabbit hole called the Internet and found out that my phobias have names – Ready for this? Entomophobia is the fear of one or more classes of insect while Ophidiophobia describes the abnormal fear of snakes, and herpetophobia relates to the fear of reptiles in general.

I suffer from all three.πŸ˜’

Q40. Did you ever watch the Walking Dead and if yes do you have a favorite season or character? If no, why not?

So I got hip to the Walking Dead when it was already well on the way to becoming one of the most popular shows on television. Me being me tried to get in on the excitement and watched the first couple of episodes of Season One but I wasn’t feeling it. I thought the zombies looked fake and they weren’t scary, not that I like scary, but it just looked like a B-rated 90s Horror film to me. I couldn’t get into it.

Prior from over at wants to know…

Q41. What would you call your autobiography?

One word – Fierce!

Scherezade Ozwulo of wanted to know

Q42. What was the best piece of advice given to you by a loved one or someone you respect, that could be passed onto your child?

My grandmother always said, “Manners will get you everywhere!”

On that note, it’s 3 am and I am about to go board my flight home. This was a great way to pass my time in the airport. I’ll be back with Part 2, next Friday, maybe even sooner.

Thanks for reading!


69 thoughts on “Ask Me Anything – The Answers (Part One)

  1. Damn girl, there’s a lot to comment on!

    1. I love your life warning label. From what I’ve seen so far, I think you’re right!
    2. I too, have often wanted to be invisible. Though probably for different reasons than yours….
    3. As for the unintended yelling, I hear you. My husband is always telling me to take it down a notch.
    4. $1,200 to see Bruce? Damn.. I love him, but probably not that much.
    5. I’m a bit disappointed I didn’t make the dinner invitation list…. surely I can replace Stephen King? We both live in Maine after all.
    6. Amen on the Walking Dead. Seriously, I do not see the appeal.

    And P.S. … you are rockin’ those furry boots!

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    1. 1. Hahahahaha

      2. Would love to hear your reasons. πŸ‘€

      3. Well, we already know we are married to men with similar personalities so that doesn’t surprise me.

      4. Right!!!!!

      5. You’d definitely be on my WordPress Blogger invitation list. Definitely in my top 5.

      Isn’t my guest list an interesting mix though?! It would make for one helluva party.

      6. Girrrrrrllll!

      P.S. Told you I was a shoe whore like you. πŸ˜‰ Thanks, Hun! One of my favorite pairs.

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    1. Heeeeey Bernice, so nice to meet you.

      I didn’t know that Emma had shouted me out on her Blog, I have to hop on over there and check out the love; that was incredibly sweet of her. I am a big fan of Emma’s, I enjoy her blog posts, there’s always a recommendation I can get with.

      It’s a pleasure to meet a fellow New Yorker on here. Where exactly in New York do you hail from? I’m in NYC, specifically Brooklyn. Happy to make your acquaintance. I’m now following you. πŸ˜ƒ

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  2. Hey, here’s my many thoughts because one simple answer just won’t do!!
    * It’s AWESOME that you were born in Jamaica! I’ve never been there.
    * I can’t imagine being the only girl but I imagine you and momma are super close.
    *Your comments about extraverted made me chuckle.
    * Jamaica to the US, let alone NY, I couldn’t do.
    * I don’t eat spaghetti mixed unless I have toπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.
    * Pet Peeves are so relateable 3 & 4 especially.
    * Warning label is hilarious!! Hahaha
    * Interesting list of dinner guest choices!
    * Comedies you may like: Transparent and Schitts Creek!!!!
    * I love Bon Jovi!
    * Grandmas are so very wise!!!
    Lovely post! It’s so interesting and quite enjoyable to read about you.

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    1. Hahaha…Hey Nova, I appreciate your views.

      The dinner guest choices would certainly make for good conversation and some hilarity.

      I gotta check out “Transparent” and “Schitt’s Creek”. I have actually heard of both but have never seen either.

      Yeah, girl, I’m Bon Jovi crazy. I even like their new stuff.

      Thank you so much for reading. 😍

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    1. Thank you so much for reading, Emma.

      I haven’t been getting a lot of feedback on this post and I’m worried it was too long and that people just don’t appreciate the long read either that or it might be boring. 😐

      As such I’m delighted that not only did you read it but you also commented.

      Thank you so much, Emma!

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  3. Rut roh, I give unsolicited advice all the time…

    I love your hypothetical self care kit!

    The hubs and I saw Hamilton when it came to Portland earlier this year – it was good, but not the best show I’ve ever seen!

    We share Egypt as an answer – ever since I was little I wanted to visit the Valley of the Kings. I hope to do it someday – even though I’ll probably bitch and moan about the oppressive heat the entire trip.

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    1. So now you know not to give me unsolicited advice. πŸ˜‰

      My hypothetical self care kit is da bomb, isn’t it?!

      Really?! Was Lin Manuel playing the lead role when you saw it? He’s no longer playing the lead on Broadway but the ticket prices still haven’t gone down.

      Yes girl, Egypt is hot. Much hotter than Jamaica, I hear.

      Thanks for always reading, Heather.

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  4. My favorite word of all time “pickney” !! Congrats on answering all the questions!!πŸ€“πŸ€“ Loved all the answersπŸ’œπŸ’œ
    Me and hubbs always talk of moving to Jamaica, living in the mountains with a farmπŸ„πŸπŸπŸ as long as I can sip ‘pon Blue Mountain roast with bun & cheese I’m good! Age travels!πŸ›«

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      1. Yeah, I parlay a littleπŸ€“ lol… back in the day, I was dancehall queen, until I blew my knee out, butterflyin’ pon de speakerbox(in my mind I was hahaha!)
        Yup, dem boys will till de soil!

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  5. Hope you made it home by now. You sound like a very strong and interesting woman! We may both be Libras, but I am the 5th child, so I think I missed out on some of that firstborn confidence you seem to have . Sadly ,I haven’t been to Jamaica, but I love reggae. And I love your carry-on bag. πŸ™‚ PS, I had forgotten about this, guess I better get started writing.

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    1. Jamaica is fabulous, my dear PK. I think you’d enjoy it there. You and hubby should put it on your bucket list.

      Hahaha…Can’t believe you noticed the carry-on…Thanks, Love. I’ve had it for a while.

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  6. Damn, awesome Job Rakkelle. I will admit, I’m a tad β€œjelly” of you and Britchy, you two got loads more participation than I did. Anyway.

    Your story is incredibly beautiful. Your dad sounds like a solid guy. A true alpha.

    I know the questions take time to answer. But I hope you enjoy the interaction.

    Britchy said she was gonna do it once a month instead of every week, I think I will follow her example.

    Hope you have a safe trip.

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    1. Oohh, I love the interaction. It’s one of my favorite things about blogging, meeting new people, sharing stories etc.

      Not too shabby for a post done in the airport, eh 007?!

      Once a month sounds like an excellent idea. I could get with that….I still have more to answer next Friday though then I can resume again in December. Thank you for starting this. It really was fun and helped bring back some great memories, stuff I hadn’t thought about in years. I liked going back to the books I have always known and loved but hadn’t read for years. It really was fun.

      Yes, my Dad was a solid, alpha male. May his soul rest in peace. He did enjoy my writing though and I’m sure he would have appreciated being written about.

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